Ms A's simple pleasures

Saturday, February 14, 2009

謝絕應酬(下)

New York 是一個國際大都會,就業機會比其他城市大,因此吸引很多新移民來此處作為起點,由於文化、思想、種族、宗教及教育異迴關係,都可以算是品流複雜。


有些人生活真係好隨便,要小心相處,否則好容易觸焦!他們大多思想開放,一般致少結過2次婚或以上,又有非常多未婚媽媽,小孩們在美國是不會有心理陰影的,而且政府為了小孩不過早懷孕,在初中已極力推行性教育,校中已有避孕套派送或平買。這是環境所然。


在這裡若你話有好多兄弟姐妹,佢一定会問喺咪同一个父母生嘅?若果有人話佢父母結咗婚好耐有成廿十儿年,其他人又会問喺同儿多個人結咗十儿廿年?一D都唔会唐突!非常正常,好多時答案仲非常長!我現在都会問, 當然是問老外啦! 好平常唷~


我初開始做工時,唔識死,同些同事出去蒲吓,佢哋飲大儿杯,就会乜都話你知,記得當時同班黑人女同事時去Night Club; 有個会儍到講自己一次同過幾多男人一齊上過床等等,仲鬼咁興奮,好自豪,真嚇死我。


去過這一次后就冇同佢哋handout啦! 后來轉咗Department,聽聞嗰个言論大膽的女同事死於AIDS呀!好彩,同佢handout咗一次咁多啫!你咪話唔驚,我打的是銀行工呢。我有個女朋友在學校中工作,亦說老師的私生活亦是如此亂糟糟‧‧‧‧,而且在美吸毒問題都嚴重,入侵每一個行業,所以,若不自愛,可以有儿墮落就有幾墮落!


當時我才剛剛來美不多久,就已經被佢地嘅開放道德觀念嚇親,你話我点唔会唔成日扮cool呢!


初初來的六、七年,好儿時食lunch 都會同女同事一齊,她們会講仔經,東家長西家短! 又八掛,好奇我哋唐人嘅私生活,有時都唔識点答‧‧‧好尷尬,就扮聽唔明,唔識聽。佢哋唔知我哋中國人好含蓄,就算開放極亦不會公開討論。


不過她們是無惡意,都屬於正常的話題,個個都係咁講自己點樣,非常之仔細露骨。當然還有很多對其他事物的看法和做法,所以我聽埋學埋唔少嘢。這就是文化差異,我諗我是屬於有原則的人,要學習他們的全盤文化,還未做到。若是要靠邊站,自己就要和他們生活得一般!


好Friend嘅同事有時会邀請你去他們屋企吃反、飲酒,開生日party咁,平時聽了佢哋講自己間屋有儿靚,屋企有儿好,天花亂墜,去到亦不外如是而矣~我是不会吹的。所以我現在亦少咗同D同事吃反啦,点都係我聽你哋講,無穩啦!可能佢地都喺咁話。


Dear Cousin Henry and his lovely wife Heather

To Dear Henry and Heather,


Sa wat dee krap! We’re so glad to receive your letter on Valentine’s Day. This is so impress and meaningful for us to receive on today. As a family, we can’t always visit each other due to our busy working schedule.


This is the longer letter I’ve ever seen before and don’t know how to reply your long letter, but we will try to do it slowly.


You know how much I appreciate and thankful for Edward and Henry’s family always take care of my mother and she always had a great time during vacation.

I remember the shut down of the Bangkok’s Airport and you all stuck in the middle of that. It happened a few days before Huyen and I returned Hong Kong from Beijing, China trip. My mother’s friend worried about her, but I told her I’m very confidence that you will take care and protect our family and find the good solution. 

You know what? I was Right! When I saw my mother returned back from Thai and she looks fine and healthy! She also told me she really had a wonderful time in Thailand.


Until now she always told us Heather is very detail and thoughtful lady. She put the litter doll next to her pillow and prepared the bottle of water for her. You make me feel I’m a bad daughter and need to learn a lot from you


But we’re still little disappointed and couldn’t see each other in Hong Kong and celebrated the 90th Birthdays our grandma and grandpa. It showed the Thai’s government was so helpless and took such a long time to resolve the conflict. As a result this incident messed up our family gathering


Last month I saw Heather left the message on Facebook and talked about her mom, Michelle got the brain surgery. I was worry about Heather. She must be very depressed and worry. I felt so helpless and only can pray for her and her family. Now from the letter and learned that Michele is on treatment and getting better. We wish she get well soon.


Huyen and I are always waiting for you to come to visit us in NJ. Bella is 16 months old and got spoiled. She is our little alarm and cried every morning at 5 AM. Sometimes she started at 12:30 and 3:30 and gave us a wake up call every hour! But we still love her… she is so sweet tempered.


Chiang Mai is a very beautiful city in Thailand. I heard it before I moved to New York, US. However I never have the chance to explore this city. We’re also happy to hear you and Heather have a good time in there and guess you love it more than Roma. I believe everything would be work out great for you in the future .


We’re the family and always love to hear from you and share all your life experiences.


Love,

Ada and Huyen


 


P.S. 其實對我而言情人節的意義未必是男女之間的愛情,親情和友情亦是同樣重要!今天收到我在遠方泰國清邁工作的表弟來信,滿滿的兩大頁紙,真是令我非常感動亦兼且頭痛。感動是他掛念我這個表姐,真是令我感到開心欣慰。而頭痛的是我這表弟是美國土生華人,不會看和寫中文,所以我這位無能表姐只好硬著頭皮,在家中慢慢匠了一個下午,寫了一封英文信寄回給他,真令我感到頭痛不矣!5555, 這就是我今年的情人節特備節目啊,你話是否非常感動兼且頭痛呢?




Friday, February 13, 2009

飛機又發生意外

好恐怖! 今晨駕車返工又聽到Newark, NJ 機場起飛的飛機發生意外!隨后又收到好些朋友問候,亦有Forward咗News告知的,你們的關心我是收到的!新聞如下:

 


一連串爆炸聲震撼了附近地區,隨後竄出比附近建築還高的火球照亮了夜空,連燒了好幾個小時。

附近的消防隊派出的消防員迅速趕到現場,雖然立即展開被當地官員形容為「英勇」的行動,卻無法將困在火場的機上人員救出。

這架由新澤西州(New Jersey)紐瓦克(Newark)起飛的「大陸航空公司」(Continental Airlines)「龐巴迪衝刺8型Q400」(Bombardier Dash 8 Q400)噴射客機,在預定降落水牛城(Buffalo)前約5分鐘時墜毀。

紐約州州長派特森(David Paterson)說,「44位乘客和4位機組員,以及地面上至少一人死亡。」

伊利郡(Erie County)一位官員說,大陸航空3407號班機於晚間10時20分墜毀於紐約州水牛城郊區,失事地點距機場僅數公里。

伊利郡官員告訴美國「有線電視新聞網」(CNN),這架飛機載有5800磅噴射機燃油,在墜毀的衝擊中化為火球

 

其實飛機是比其他交通工具發生的意外機會少很多,只是近來NJ Newark國際機場真是非常出位,什么紅白事佢都有份,真喺牛呀!

至從911以后,我搭機都有少少驚! 這是每一個New Yorker嘅心理陰影,有些人只此以后連飛機不再坐呢! 不過I think I got to do ; I got to do! Can't worry about that much.

所以都戰戰慄慄的繼續乘搭。而且時間可以冲淡一切,所以現在只是少少驚啫! 佢呢个時候又有Dsad news出嚟,真喺采過佢!

好彩我慣常在JFK上機,好似未曾發生過這些慘事,搭國泰亦應該都好穩陣,唔駛慄~自己嚇自己!

今晚我又有好介紹:


呢个喺白反魚炒蛋,做法非常簡單﹕白反魚+3隻雞蛋+芫茜+沖菜粒+小小豆粉混合就可完成! 方便!簡單!想蛋滑小小就加D油在材料糊槳中。都儿好食!

 

P.S. 見你哋咁支持,我又講呢兩天D瘀嘢你聽:

一‧前天出去返工,又第N次忘記帶銀包兼駕駛執照,放工時,有架

police car跟咗我九條街–嚇死我! 全程做乖寶寶,唔敢開快車,淨少少睡著。

二‧今天煮白反魚炒蛋時,將鹹蛋當雞蛋打(因為我LuLu將鹹蛋和雞蛋放在一齊,全部都喺白色殼呢!)所以碟魚,冇需加鹽‧‧‧‧‧哈哈!

Thursday, February 12, 2009

謝絕應酬(上)

昨天和同事們一起Happy Hour,因我的車程太遠,要是飲太多駕車可是危險得很!所以 一般也不大熱衷去bar的。但美國人是一個熱情的民族,他們会不屈不撓的纏着你答應為止。所以我有時都好古惑,多數應承先,然后當日就說家中有急事或身體不適而堆卻。


天啊!他們是豪飲一族呢!只要你肯陪,他們可以不計成本,博命飲又請埋你飲,真是一个增進感情的好方法。


今次我是辭窮,因為有兩位被公司layoff 的同事会出席,一定要參加被臉派對啦!


其實這兩位同事真的好nice、得到好多同事歡心,工作亦盡心。我想大家都明白公司點解踢走佢兩位先~~因為他們是有一腿啊!


這差不多是公開祕密,兩個都已婚,一個又有家室兒女,兩人成日都在office到好似糖不甩咁,男的可以在女的Office每天談天3-4粒鐘又前后腳去食午飯,前后腳返公司。我咁遲鈍都知啦!



Office Affairs是所有大公司所不容的,有都要地下情,唔可以咁揚! 所以都抵死!中國人都有句說話叫做「兔子不吃窩邊草」。 不過我做邊個部門都会有,所以亦算是好平常,隻眼開隻眼閉,唔好惹我就得喇!



我在office好cool !不和男同事講D工作無關的事,除非佢地差唔多退休年紀,做得我阿爸,又有家庭,仔女咁。大多都喺一句起,兩句止。女同事就OK,八八掛掛,是我的最愛!



但無乜重要事是絕對謝絕應酬,原因? 下次再講啦!


P.S. 我由於夜咗回來,令阿女Bella非常不滿而進行大報復!她由+二点開始morning call 一次,三点一次,四点一次,五点半一次,我終於投行!起身抱吓佢,喂吓嘢被佢食,再入房睡。但她二十分鐘后又call and called every 20 mins! My God! I'm so tired!


我決定今晚同佢玩到筋皮力盡! 看圖



 


 


Wednesday, February 11, 2009

驛動的心

我好耐冇試過咁即興買嘢!好多時都喺諗清諗楚先做,猶其喺貴又take time嘅事!計劃幾個月先慢慢開始action,唉!可能你話我儍,又想十次,不過當我決定落實嘅事是從不后悔的! 亦已經過咗一時衝動的年紀。


其實今次的决定是儿匆忙,亦是一剎那的頓悟!


第一次有人提問時,我真喺唔行得開,公司處於動蕩時期,而且我要在家做節過年。但這次的聚會,有朋友說考慮不到,我向她勸說時,不是亦和自己說道嗎?


我在分析為么麼不回去呢?有什么理由?四大幸事中,的「他乡遇到故知」不是令我最有感受嗎?現在尋回又各方面許可,我的人生可不能留有遺憾啊! 事情做了若不成,致少是嘗試並死心! 若可做而不為,那就会后悔。


這是一個傻瓜的執著!


今次回港已經箭在弦上,雖然有少少肉痛,但「錢」是由我支配,不是它來支配我! 可以Ignore.不想錯過今次重聚而有所遺憾!


可是最痛苦是來回的30个hours坐飛機時間和其后的時差‧‧‧真不是味意。已經是一个非常迷糊的人再加上時差‧‧‧‧真是令煊煊徨恐,哈哈!而我可是不會的,因為 香港是我的家喇!


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